Privacy
Private beta · Last updated November 12, 2026
What Dakota stores.
- Your phone number and your sign-up record.
- Your profile: first name, age, gender, who you’re interested in, the age range you’d date, your neighborhood and how far you’d go, your answers to her questions, your dealbreakers, a short summary, and her private notes about your photos.
- Your conversation: your messages and her replies, kept by Dakota on her own server along with her memory of you, and in our database.
- Your photos, briefly: each one is stored only until Dakota looks at it once, then the image is erased. Her written notes about it stay in your profile.
- Match records: who you were matched with, the score and topics behind it, both yes-or-no answers, date options, time picks, venue and date time.
- Daily counts of your messages and her replies, used to enforce daily limits; your invite links and who used them; and any block or report you make, including any note with it.
What a match sees. Before both of you say yes, each of you hears only a compatibility score and the topics you see alike, nothing that identifies you. Once you both say yes and pick a time, your date learns your first name and the venue and time. Your number is shared with your date only after you agree, either passed on by Dakota or shown in the group text she starts from her line to introduce you. If someone declines, or you do, it is never revealed: every match that doesn’t come together ends the same way. Your photos, photo notes and answers are never shown to a match.
Daily check-ins. Dakota may text you once a day in the evening, Miami time, and often skips it. Tell her “stop texting me daily” to turn them off, or ask for them back. “Pause” also stops them.
Who processes it. Photon delivers your iMessages and keeps its own records of the messages it carries. Anthropic’s Claude AI models read your messages and photos to write Dakota’s replies. Hosting and database providers store the data. Each handles data under its own terms. We do not sell your information.
Delete me. Text Dakota “delete me” and she:
- closes any match in progress (the other person hears only that it didn’t come together);
- empties your profile, including your answers and photo notes;
- deletes her conversation with you and her memory of it from her server;
- replaces the text of your messages and her replies in our database with “[deleted]”;
- erases any stored photos, any intro text not yet sent, your time picks and the topics behind your matches;
- removes your first name and number from the date notices we stored for anyone you were matched with;
- closes the account, so your number is no longer connected to Dakota: you get one goodbye text and nothing after that.
The same happens if we learn a member is under 18.
What deletion can’t undo. We can’t take back what was already delivered to someone else. If you had a date set, your match may still have your first name, the date details and, if you agreed to share it, your number, in their own conversation with Dakota (including our stored copy of it) and in any group intro text. Photon and Anthropic keep what their own terms allow.
What we keep after a deletion: your phone number (on the closed account, your sign-up record and Dakota’s server); your match records without your picks or the topics behind them (who, score, both answers, status, date options, the other person’s picks, venue and date time); message ids and times with the text removed; daily usage counts; invite records; and every block or report, including its note, so nobody is matched again with someone they blocked. That number can’t be used to sign up for Dakota again. We have not yet set how long these are kept.
18 and older only. Dakota is not for anyone under 18.
Contact. Questions or requests: axkgoods@gmail.com.